Writing Prompt: What’s the stupidest thing you used to believe whole-heartedly?
Originally when I picked up my copy of “642 Things to Write About” by the San Francisco Writers’ Grotto, I thought it was going to be difficult to pick a prompt that I had any interest in. After originally getting this book there was quite a bit of prompts that simply couldn’t hold my curiosity. I believe that it was more a lack of drive and determination and willingness to accept that challenge.
I now absolutely welcome the challenges that I will face in this book. I know that each question could have dozens of answers and I look forward to eventually going back to revisit these prompts to view my growth over the course of the next few years. That being said, let’s get to it.
It didn’t take me long to figure out what the single stupidest thing I used to believe in whole-heartedly. It was something I had believed in as a child. Back then I will full of imagination and wonder and the only thing that held me back was the rules and regulations put in place from my mother. I could only play during certain times, I had to eat what she made me, and a bed time. There were shows I couldn’t watch, and I always felt so restricted. I know now as an adult that she was doing this for my good, but of course as a child, I didn’t see it that way.
I absolutely knew that the moment that I became an adult that all of that would change. I would be able to watch whatever I wanted, eat whatever (and whenever) I wanted, go to sleep whenever I want, and to simply do as I pleased. I knew that once I became an adult that I would finally be free.
Absolutely no one told me how wrong I was. No one told me that I could eat whatever I wanted; however, I had to have money to buy food, then make it, and then to clean up after myself. On top of that, I had to worry about what I put in my body because I learned very quickly how easy it is to get fat.
No one told me that in order to take care of myself as an adult that I would have to work my ass off at a thankless jobs to pay for such freedoms. And even at the end of working full time it would still be a struggle to live the way I believed that I deserved to live.
One of the biggest life lessons I have learned though this though is that anything is possible if you truly want it. I highly recommend figuring out what you want and then writing a list of why’s so that when you struggle (because you will struggle and fail repeatedly) you have something to go back to and remind yourself why you’re making these changes for yourself. After you have established some why’s (you can always continue to add to this list or change them at any time. They are not sets of rules), start making goals. Make long term, short term, and daily goals. Figure out exactly how you are going to accomplish your dreams and work at it every single day.
It is very easy to feel alone in this whole process. It is very important to not only have friends that understand what you are doing, but those that will help encourage and support you along the way. These may be friends you have known for your entire life, or family members, or even strangers you meet that have similar goals as you. If there are people in your life that are telling you that you cannot do something, tell them you love them and then get away from them. You do not need that kind of negativity in your life. Trust me, this process is hard enough (no matter what your goals are) without those kinds of people. That is not a true support system.
I think what has changed the most for me recently is simply the fact that I believe in myself more. There was a long time (years and years) where I had little to no self-confidence. I believed that I was nothing so I did nothing. If something was going to happen to me, it would just happen in its own time. And let me be the one to tell you that that’s a bunch of bullshit.
If you want something out of life. You have to go after it. You have to work hard. You have to take your failures and turn them into lessons learned. You have to get yourself back up, wipe the blood, sweat, and tears off of your face and go at it again. Put in the work. Believe in yourself. Dream big. You are worth it. Always.
So two questions for you to ponder:
1) What was the single stupidest thing that you used to believe whole-heartedly?
2) What do you want out of life that you don’t currently have, and how are you going to go get it?